太愛一個人,會被他牽著鼻子走,有如被魔仗點中,完完全全不能自己。
從此,你沒有了自己的思想,沒有了自己的喜怒哀樂,你以他為中心,跟著他在一起時,你就是整個世界;不跟他在一起時,世界就是他。
太愛一個人,會失去原則地忍受他,慢慢地他習慣於這種縱容,無視你為他的付出,甚至會覺得你很煩,太沒個性,甚至開始輕視,怠慢,不尊重你……
太愛一個人,你無異於一支蠟燭,奮不顧身地燃燒,只為求得一時的光與熱。待蠟燭燃盡,你什麼都沒有了。而對方只是一個手電筒,他可以不斷放入新電池,永遠保持活力。
太愛一個人,他會習慣你對他的好,而忘了自己也應該付出,忘了你也一樣需要得到同等的回報--他完全被你寵壞了。
不要以為你愛對方十分他也會愛你十分,愛是不講道理的,所以很多時候,愛也是不平等的。
不要愛一個人愛的渾然忘卻自我。那樣全身心的愛只會出現在小說或電影裡,這個社會越來越不歡迎不顧一切的愛。
給他呼吸的空間,也給自己留個餘地--飛蛾撲火的愛情,正在進行時固然讓人覺得壯美,投入那麼多,你能否面對那慘重的損失?
所以,愛一個人不要愛到十分,七分已經足夠了。剩下的三分,用來愛自己。
Thursday, September 25, 2008
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I agree and disagree.
Loving wholely allows a sense of independence.
Thinking about fairness is what causes the rift between relationships.
Its never fair.
Its never been fair.
And that applies to everything in life.
We do things because we want to.
There is no other excuse or motivation around it.
I love because I choose to.
I hate because of the same reason.
Loving another with conditions is basically saying that you won't ever be able to accept the other person for who they are.
So even though I agree that a person should learn to love themselves as well as others, it does not mean that we should limit our love so that we don't loose ourselves.
Unconditional love is what we do. 70% means you are contrating your emotions where 30% is your revenue.
And that my friend will never work in the long run.
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